The one thing all humans have in common is we all want to be happy. The very essence of what we do and what we are willing to put up with is done with the end goal in mind to be happy. How each of us attains that goal may be very individual, but no matter – as humans we all share this same basic criteria for living a satisfied life.
Despite a lot of our efforts though, if we are working overtime towing st louis hurts around and savoring old wounds we will put a self imposed barrier up to the elusive happiness we seek. Some, and we’ve all known someone like this, have mistakenly assumed that misery brings happiness via empathy, attention, perhaps pity, but anyone who has tried to live that kind of life for long realizes happiness is lost.
We are met daily with challenges that involve circumstances, co-workers, strangers, even friends that offer up the inevitable choice of deciding whether to be bummed or move consciously forward toward a better end. It’s not to say that there are not processes that take some of us longer than others, but we are all given the ultimate choice of how we play the process out.
Some who actually study happiness tell us that it depends solely on our level of gratitude. Being grateful naturally leads the way to a happy life. It’s a misnomer that being happy means that one is grateful. If someone says they are happy, but not feeling gratitude, then how deep does their happiness go? You might have a beautiful vessel, but if it’s empty is it serving it innate purpose? These are a sampling of the questions science is asking. Apparently life has a way of catching up with those who take things for granted. Eventually lack of appreciation for the gifts of life comes back to bite you in one way or another.
Scientist have studied what physically happens in our brains when we choose to be happy. There’s that pesky notion of choosing again, but it really is up to us. Because as humans we can imagine something before we do it and therefore we are already predisposed to whether it will please us or not. We can set ourselves up beforehand – even – for the unexpected. We have what is termed an impact bias – we assume a reaction.
It’s up to us to catch the assumption in the moment it happens and pivot our thoughts to accommodate other possible reactions. Not an easy thing without being an enlightened master or otherwise spending a great deal of time practicing. Like any exercise the reaction of mentally and emotionally pivoting gets stronger with use.
In studies on human happiness its been discovered that we innately synthesize happiness to help accept the world we find ourselves in. Even after traumatic events, as little as 3 months later the event doesn’t hold the weight it once had in determining whether we can be happy.
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